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Dear Kinsolving,
I have been trying to find the time to fill you in on the wonderful world you have opened up for my husband and I. Thank you so much - we are now the luckiest people on the planet! Our daughter is strong and beautiful and is very independent, happy, positive, open, affectionate, and self-confident. It other words, she knows exactly what she likes and what she wants and has great confidence in herself and her decisions; qualities I value greatly. She loves her adoptive family and loves us too and she is very happy that we are back in the picture. She said that she has had so many questions that she always wanted to ask and now can just pick up the phone and do so. We have been able to get to know her fairly well over the past months during many long phone calls, letters and in her recent weekend visit with us, and we already love her more than I can ever describe. She makes us laugh, and feel good - it is her own poise, confidence, and affectionate matter that has made it all so easy to get beyond the nervous aspects of the situation. She is everything we could had hoped she would turn out to be, not because we think she is absolute perfection (she is too human and independent for that!), but predominantly because she is so happy, loving and strong. What more could we ask for, really?
My husband is absolutely in awe of her and has never been happier in his life. He told me that seeing her and being with her was the most emotional, wonderful experience he has ever had. He and our youngest son have always been extremely close, like two peas in a pod, and still are, of course, but it has been quite an experience for him to see his own daughter, looking so much like him, with his own genes and some of his traits! The latest research on the subject has established the about 50% of your personality is determined by genes, and 50% of your environment, so it doesn't just affect looks! Her mom told her that she should have figured that if anyone could find her, it would be someone like me. She told our daughter that she had been told by the agency 23 years ago that her natural mother was a very strong-willed, assertive young woman, so she said she wouldn't be surprised that I found her or that she is like that herself.
Her adoptive parents were excellent choices - her mother is a nurse and her father owns his own business, and they have always given our daughter the best of everything and have done a really good job of raising her. Her parents asked her not to stay in contact with us until they had a chance to prove that we are who we say we are, so they first called the agency who denied them the information. They got their attorney to petition against the court in Richmond for her original birth certificate and she now has it and has seen both of our names on it as well as her original name. I'm glad they did that - there can be no doubts on their part now about who we are.
The boys are both very happy about their sister and both think she is really terrific. Both of them immediately took the best pictures of her for their wallets.
Our daughter told us that she had very much wanted to know all about us and the rest of her genetic family. When she was sixteen, she became upset in this regard and had a lot of questions her parents couldn't answer. She just plain wanted to know as much about us as she could find out, and became very frustrated. Her parents took her back to the agency so that she could personally review the information. She was told by the agency at that time that she was one of the few adopted children whose mother and father had been both willing to go to that effort. The records are blacked out to such a degree though that she really found out very little about either of us and none of it was of any importance or identifiable, so she left there frustrated and would have never been able to have answers to her questions if it hadn't been for YOU.
Well, now you have "the rest of the story," and you wrote the key parts. You can imagine that we are living our dreams right now. No one could be as lucky as we have been in this life, and I thank God for everything He has done for us all, and He worked through YOU. I have always had such a happy life and have been so fortunate in family and personal matters but now I've come full circle with the past, and it is just so unbelievable, the extra peace it brings.
We cannot thank you enough for helping us find her after all these years, especially with a married name and in a different state. I would have gone crazy without your support, compassion and warmth! I grew to love you along the way, trust you completely (and correctly so), and will never forget you. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You - you should never wonder if you have made a difference in this world.... YOU HAVE!!
Fondly,
M & G
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Dear Kinsolving,
A "thank you" is hardly enough to say to you for all that you have given back to me. My life has come full circle and I am building a relationship with my son who I lost to adoption 29 years ago. I promise to share more with you at a later date. My head is spinning and I'm still trying to process all that has been happening. It is so exciting and so wonderful.
God bless you and all that you do to reunite families.
Sincerely,
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