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Hi Chris,
I am happy to share my experience with you and the readers. My saga began 43 years ago when as a young teenager I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy who I saw for only a few minutes. Every birthday I would wish he would get what he asked for and every Christmas I hoped he was being spoiled. About 20 years ago I registered with many web sites for birth mothers. Someone told me about you ten years ago and I printed up the information and filed it away. I'm sure part of it was from fear. The catalyst for my search was when my best friend lost her son and I thought maybe there is someone out there that needs me for whatever reason so I contacted you. Well, two weeks later I got the life changing call and then his information. It took me 2 months to call him. Part of him wasn't surprised to hear from me but he didn't seem especially happy either until into the conversation he asked me how old I was. When I said I had been 16 at the time, he said he had no idea of the circumstances and had been angry with me for giving him up but now understood.
I told him I was going be in that city for a holiday and would he like to meet and he said yes. So we met and he brought me pictures of my grandchildren (who look like me!). It was a conversation of questions and answers and was very comfortable although he might have felt weird having this strange woman just staring at him for hours! We laughed about all the things I had 'given' him: bad eyesight, allergies etc. I said "I hope it wasn't all bad" and he said "You gave me life, what could be better!"
When we parted it was the best hug of my life. We are going to go slowly. We leave on opposite coasts which I think is good as we will get to know each other better through phone calls and emails. When he is ready, he will introduce me to his family and hopefully my elderly mother will meet her grandson and great grandchildren but we have pictures.
So am I glad I made the decision - you betcha!! Who know what the future will bring but if nothing else, I know he is happy and healthy and has had a good life. Thank you so much for helping me. Your advice on the phone was so helpful also.
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Dear Kinsolving,
I wanted to send you this letter to express my gratitude in the work you did on my search.
As you know, I had been looking for my brother for almost twelve years when I contacted you. My mother was very young when she had him and she was sent away to another state to give him up for adoption.
After the adoption she was forbidden to see the father and continued to see him, grew up and married him. She then had me and my sister. I didn't find out about my brother until I was pregnant with my first son twelve years ago. I know it sounds crazy but I always knew I had a brother so it wasn't much of a surprise.
I searched on my own by registering through adoption sites for years and searching on the internet. I paid for a drivers license database, searched the state prison, and searched all the high schools in the area where he was born. I probably put his date of birth in search engines at least 1,000 times. I saw your site years ago when I was in the middle of my search but finally decided to email you this year.
I have to admit I was skeptical about using a company online but after speaking with you over the phone, I felt better. The fact that you search on a contingency basis (no find, no fee), made me feel even more comfortable.
Within two weeks of signing your paperwork, I got the call that you had found him. I had his contact information the next morning. I realize that every story is different and so many things could have gone wrong. Fortunately, my brother was thrilled to hear from me and all about me, my sister and my parents. I called him on August 4th and I'm excited to tell you that I just got back from our first visit to Pennsylvania where we visited with him and his wife for 5 days. My entire family from California flew to Pennsylvania to meet him and although we are just meeting him, it's like we have known him our whole lives.
Both my brother and his wife are so happy that we have found him and they are very welcomed additions to our family.
I'm not sure how you were able to find him but I'm just very glad that you did. I can't thank you enough. Please feel free to use me as a reference, anytime.
Best regards,
LS/PA |
Kinsolving,
I used you guys and you found my bson it has been a wonderful reunion. I refer to you whenever I can. I have no fear of referring you I know I am telling someone of a reliable and fair company.
KB/NC |
Hey Chris! I met J this past week-end and it turned out to be wonderful! He was very receptive to me and now he even wants to call me MOM! What a wonderful time we had, lots of tears and lots of laughter. He wants to meet my whole family now and be part of my family. So you don't have to send me anything anymore about searching. Thanks again for your help!
JH/NC |
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