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Dear Chris,
I will definitely write something for the newsletter - and please use me for a reference whenever you wish.
I'm well aware that not all reunions go well - but mine has been nothingless than miraculous. As you may recall, I had wanted to find my Birthmother to let her know that I was alive, well and happy. I was open to further contact if she wished, but my intention was to allow her the peace that I knew as a Mother she needed - to know her first-born was fine. I believe that it's extremely important for those of us who search to go into it "clean" - without unrealistic expectations or needing something within ourselves that we erroneously believe we will find from them.I am sure that at earlier times in my life, I should NOT have pursued this course - and am so glad I didn't.
Can you imagine my reaction in finding out that my birth family knew about me? That my two sisters had wanted to search for me - but out of deference to our Mom, they didn't? My Mom had worried that I would reject her because
she had put me up for adoption! I have an aunt; two sisters with whom I speak weekly; seven first cousins - three of whom have been to my house; a mess of second cousins - and my wonderful Mom! I've been to her house once - and she's been here to mine. In early November, my aunt is coming up from Venezuela for a visit - and my Better Half and I will be going to my cousin's house in Fairfield, CT, to have dinner with Mom, Aunt Sue, my
cousins and their kids! It does NOT get better than this.
I have made it a point to tell my Mom that I don't care about the circumstances of my conception. I know just by our being together and our conversations that she must have been horribly traumatized. Thanks to you,I know who he was - and I have not told my Mom that. I have said that I consider "the man" a sperm donor and that I don't need to know anything else. You would not believe how we all "fit" with one another - intellectually, emotionally, in every way. The very first time I went to my Mom's house - I knew I had come "home". I had no reservations or nervousness - we sat together sort of "basking" in each other's presences.
With the exception of my relationship with my husband - whom I have known since I was four years old - and met up with again 10 years ago, I have never felt so free with anyone in my life. We all use the word "love" a LOT. One of my first cousins could pass for my twin! I believe Scott mentioned to me on the phone that this was a family of some pretty "high-powered" type women - he was only scratching the surface! In the two generations, there is only one boy - and all the women are truly "something else"!
I had a very happy life before that e-mail you sent to me on August 8th, 2006 - but I cannot tell you what a new dimension my own family has brought to all of us. It is truly a miracle - and I thank you from the very bottom
of my heart.
Love,
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I just wanted to let you know that contact with my daughter was everything I had hoped it would be. She was thrilled that I had found her .She had also searched for me but not with a very reputable company. They took her money and she got nothing.
So thank-you from the bottom of my heart . I have such peace of mind now that I know where K is and how she is doing. We visit almost every day . She is also thrilled at having her medical history for her and her sons.
I have had several e-mails from NYA members asking about you and your company and I inform them that I have nothing but praise for you and your company..
Thank-you again-
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