THE VANGUARD
Vol.10 Issue October 2007
Overcoming Fear: Rewarded
Following the birth of my 2nd child, it was stunning to finally have my birthmother’s contact information.
I’m so grateful you counseled me to make the contact – in spite of my paralyzing reluctance and deep-seated fear of being inadvertently reckless with her feelings.
Initially we had a number of extremely emotional conversations and letters. Now we are settling into a wonderful relationship.
Except for her husband, she's never told anyone in her family of my birth. Her plans are to tell the other four children before Thanksgiving, and we are both looking forward to meeting each other very soon.
I'm so glad for having made the contact. I think this will be one of the most amazing experiences of my life – and hers, too. Even though sometimes it has been painful to relive the past, it has also been very healing for her ... and that has been the ultimate reward!
Many, many thanks. TBS/MN
A Birthmother’s Reality
I never wanted to give my daughter up, and have searched for her on and off for years. Now that I know where she is, even if she isn't receptive to contact, I know that she is alive and apparently well with a family. That alone has filled the void in my heart and life. With my sincere heartfelt thanks, I am a birthmother no longer searching.
LTV/NY
Did You Know...
That the majority of adoptive mothers have wished they had contact with the birthmother to express their heartfelt feelings of gratitude, or that some have even written her a letter?
An Amazing Experience!
When I woke up this morning, I knew my life was going to be changing within hours.
After wondering for a long 29 years before having a name, I am in awe – speechless! – at the amount of information Kinsolving has provided.
Thanks for all you have done! KdL/
A Most Fruitful Reunion
I am doing very well and am so happy with having contacted my birthmother, brother and sister! My birthmother is great and very sweet to me, as is her husband. They are already treating me as part of the family.
My brother had no idea I existed, but we seem to talk easily – and he is thrilled he is not an only male child. My sister is a daily joy in me life now. Having an older sibling meant so much to her, she says she is so happy to have a part of her dad back, as my son looks exactly like him!
Thanx again, AW /TX
Quick Recognition
Thanks again for your help and advice. I had my two pages of do's and don'ts and my script, and rehearsed for a couple of days. Actually, I tried to call yesterday, got a recording and hung up! Then I had nightmares all night in which I kept calling her, she kept answering, but I didn't say anything and hung up!) Anyway, after the first two or three scripted sentences were out of my mouth, she KNEW who I was and it went really well from there. At this point, it really just doesn't seem real. She was glad to hear from me, and gave me my birth father's name, but I can't find any record of him anywhere!
JMcC/ |
