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Dear Kinsolving,
I wanted to offer my sincerest “thanks??? for all of your help and support regarding my search. I made phone contact with my birthmother last week and the contact appeared to go very well. Clearly, we have entered an entirely new phase of this “story??? and I continue to hope things go well.
I will continue to draw on your assistance and support as we move forward, but I wanted to make sure you knew how much I have appreciated your help up to this point. You have helped me realize a dream and your encouragement was critical in keeping me going. Your advice on how to initiate the contact was especially valuable. (But man, was that phone call tough to make! My hands still shake when I think about how nervous I was!) Working through the phone, though nerve-wracking, was also so much more powerful because hearing her voice for the first time was something I will never, ever forget.
As we enter this new phase of relationship building I may need to draw on your experience to help navigate the waters. I do not want to push too hard, too fast, but at the same time, I need to determine how willing she is to develop a relationship. And what about other matters, like: do I send her and her husband birthday cards? I have not been able to extract any information regarding the birthfather from CHS, and I don’t want to press the matter so very much: I would not jeopardize that for anything.
I still feel overwhelmed with the developments of the last 4 weeks. I feel tremendous happiness to have found her, as well as small tinges of regret that we’ve been apart for so much of my (and her) life – she seems so interesting and easy to talk to! I wish I could put all of the emotion and excitement in a bottle and preserve it forever! I can’t even remember how the first call went – I was in total shock! All I remember is how wonderful her voice sounded and how easy it seemed to talk with her. It was as though I’d known her all along. I guess, in a way, I have…
Well, thank you again so very, very much. I am so truly lucky – as I told my birthmother, an angel has touched my soul and I continue to thank every star I see.
Thank you. M.
PA |
Forwarded Message:
To: Chris Lee
I contacted Leann and we have had two WONDERFUL telephone conversations now. I am just ecstatic! And she seems to be too. Everything you said was true about what to expect.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Jane
Dear Kinsolving,
Well, I promised most of you that you’d know as soon as I did. I have good news and bad news. The good news is I have names and know a lot of my history and have the chance to know more through a sister and 2 brothers. Bad news is everyone but my siblings are deceased, so it is unlikely I’ll find out my birth dad’s name. My sister may try to help at some point because she id interested in genealogy. It was a shock to her, but she said “with mama anything is possible??? and the dates are right. I think I might have liked mama, but she died ten years ago. Her daughter pestered her to have more information about her background, but she just wasn’t into telling it. Having secrets such as me was probably part of the reason.
I haven’t talked to the brothers yet. I’ll do it later when more of this has sunken in. I just like to keep my promise to let you know the results of my search. I won’t kid you and say I’m thrilled. This isn’t the reunion I had dreamed of and hoped for, but its reality and it’s OK. There is still hope I will build a friendship and hopefully sisterhood feeling with my 1/2 sister Barbara. The information Chris was able to give me was remarkable. I looked for over half a year with little results and within a week she came up with names and addresses of several relatives. Birth dates, marriage dates, death dates, etc.
If you want more details I’ll be happy to tell you about it. I really appreciate all the encouragement you have given me throughout my search. I hope you’ve felt like I’ve been there for you too, because I have tried to. The backyard is a supportive, helpful place, and I hope we can all keep it that way.
I feel like breaking into a chorus of don’t cry for me Argentina lol but I’ll spare you that hideous sight. I’m no Madonna. I look forward to talking to all of you soon.
Love,
Sherry |
Hello Chris,
Phoned Michele last might, it went well thanks to your wise advice. She expected that I would call sometime. Knew right away it was me! Had already met up with bdad’s family (bdad died in 92) …feels like I’m the last on the scene…We are starting email correspondence. I’ll let you know what more develops as time goes on…
Sunday afternoon at home, kids running around, kitchen messy, husband wants cup of tea with me, sewing quilts for girl scouts Tues….no more time to write.
Talk to you later,
THANK GOD FOR PEOPLE LIKE YOU
With love and appreciation,
Sylvia |
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