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Dear Readers,
When I was asked to write my story, I hesitated - Where would I start? I assume many of you adoptees grew up knowing they were adopted - not in my case. For reasons known only to my parents, they chose to never tell me. Both sides of the family, respecting their wishes, kept silent. So I grew up believing that I was a miracle - a baby the doctor said my mother could never have! This continued on for 36 years until my mother fell ill and through blood typing I realized I could not be my parent’s biological child. Sadly, my mother was in ICU and died before I could confront her. After stewing for a couple more years I set out to learn the truth. I called my mother’s sister and she confirmed that I was adopted.
This led me to Kinsolving and through them, my birth mother and my sister were located in eight days! All my life I had longed for a sibling and to know I had a sister.... Well, I just can’t put the feeling into words. I called my birth mother right away so as not to lose my nerve. She was shocked, stunned and finally delighted. I mean forty years is a long time! She told my sister the next day and after her initial shock she too, was quite pleased.
We all met on January 16, 1999 and then on the 17th I met all my other relatives - Aunts, Uncles and some cousins. They accepted me without reservation and had fun telling me who I looked like.
I can’t say enough good things about Kinsolving. I did not have time on my side and Kinsolving sure took care of that. If you are reading this and you wonder whether to give Kinsolving the go ahead, I urge you to take the plunge. Even if your reunion turns out to be less than wonderful - not knowing to me would be worse.
My story does not end here. It’s only just begun. Best of luck to everyone.
C.
S.C. |
Dear Kinsolving,
Based on some of the stories published in your magazine, I feel most fortunate that my reconciliation has been much smoother than theirs, although it was not without some twists, and turns, bumps, and bruises along the way.
Your service brought new perspectives, and family that I would not have had otherwise. Thank you for making my biological family connection open to me.
W. |
Dear Kinsolving:
When I found out I had a brother; approximately 3 years ago, at first I was shocked, then I was thrilled. The only down side was that 40 years had passed, and family members that knew of his birth could not remember much. The only thing I had to go on was the county where he was born. And of course it is one of the largest counties in the state. After investigating on my own and running into dead ends, I turned to Kinsolving. To be honest I didn't have a lot of hope in finding him, with just the little information I had, but I had lots of prayers.
Then that call came from Kinsolving, they had located my brother. Again I was in shock and thrilled. It turns out he lives less than 8 miles from me. He has a wonderful wife and two children, his adopted mother is just a delight and his sister and her family are wonderful also. We all keep in touch with each other and my brother and I visit with each other every week by phone or he comes by the house.
It didn't take long for my brother and myself to bond, after, we sorted through a few things. I feel we have developed a relationship that is very deep and very meaningful and can never be broken. I gained a brother and a whole new family, and we all live in a short driving distance from each other.
I thank God, for this is a miracle, and I thank Kinsolving for making it possible.
TCH & PAC - NC |
Dear Kinsolving,
Back in September, you did a search to find my birth family...You did it within 7 hours. Anyway, my reunion hasn't gone as I expected, but that’s okay.
I just wanted to let you know that you can DEFINITELY use me as a ref. You guys are terrific!
Thanks,
M. |
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