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Chris, I just wanted to give you an update on what has been happening since you solved my case.
I was literally in shock for days, and could do nothing with all the info which you provided. But I finally called F's adoptive mother. She was very receptive, and confirmed, unfortunately, everything S had told you. She said several times how glad she was that I had called and encouraged me to keep in touch. I have written to her for some pictures, and do plan to call back for some"positive" feedback about F. I am sure there must have been good times.
Today I got a calling card and called S. I left a message about who I am and what I want and told her I'll call back tomorrow. Hopefully she will have a phone # where I can reach F, as she told you.
So that is it. It's crazy, but even after all I have heard, I still am somewhat anxious to talk to my son. There is definitely a bond there from my end at least. I am not naive enough to think that finding me can turn his life around at this point, but who knows.
Wish me luck! And thanks for all you did so quickly!
Chris, you may use me as a reference for sure. Even though I am still reeling from the results of my search, the fact remains that you did an amazing job and I would be more than happy to recommend you.
MC - NY |
Absolutely, use me as a reference. I want to tell the world of my experience. I also would like to share with you that I have continued to have the most wonderful experience in finding my birth family. Every day is a new twist and turn. Some good and some not. I had not expected my birthfather to be real interested. Afterall, he abandoned my mother at her time of need. But he has been amazing. And his kids have all welcomed me into the family as if I have been there forever. My relationship with my birthmother has continued to blossom. We have become extremely close and I feel as though she IS my
mother. However, her children still are not accepting of me. They won't speak of me in any way, as though I don't exist and if they don't, I will go away. This pains my mother deeply. They are forcing her to lead two separate
lives. She is taking some steps to communicate with them and hopefully things will work out. She knows, as I have told her, that she can't ask them
to accept me in THEIR lives, but she is asking that they accept me in hers, and be happy for her and ask about me. We shall see. I hope this works out
some day, for her. So please, call away. I am anxious to share my story with all who want to hear. I also thought it was a lot of money to spend. The only reason I did
it was because my father had passed away and I had an inheritance which I felt was mine, not my husbands, and I could splurge on doing this for myself. It was worth every single penny. Many people have asked me how you do it. I've told them I don't know and I don't want to know. I assume you have people on the inside. If it was that easy, everyone could do it and obviously it's not. It just doesn't matter to me how it was done. It's too bad laws have to be the way they are that adoptees can't get this
information when they turn 18. As I'm sure you know, New Hampshire has a new law on the books that allows adoptees to get this information when they turn 18. I assume and hope other states will follow. They always talk about the
rights of the birth family, but never the rights of the adoptee. I know you do this as a business and you need to make a living, so I have no problem with what you charged. If they do open up these records in other states, you
could be out of business. But knowing you are a birthmother yourself, I know you wouldn't be more pleased. You started this business because there was a need. And I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Yesterday my birthfather came to my home on his way to a meeting in the state. It was wonderful to show him where I grew up. He is such a part of me now. They all are.
Thank you again,
LM - NYS |
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