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Hi Chris,
It's been a while since we've spoken and since you found my precious son,(back in Sept, 2003). But I thought I'd take some time to fill you in on our better than ever imagined reunion.
You know I waited a long time after finding him before I was ready to contact him....as a matter of fact I was into March, 2005 and still hadn't contacted him when out of the blue I received a call March 23rd from his wife. He had asked her to contact me because he was painfully scared of making the call and he wanted her to lay some groundwork. It was a short call and she told me that he wanted me to write him a letter. We talked a little about the adoption but not much else. I was dying to talk to him and I knew he was somewhere near when she called. As a matter of fact he was in the next room but outside of hearing distance. I said nothing about finding him at this point nor about anything else I knew about him.......and I knew a bundle about him and his family from doing all the research over the past year and a half.
So I wrote my letter and waited. My letter was short and sweet and didn't get into too much about adoption issues...just a little about me and my love for him. Three weeks passes and still no response to my letter so I had another bmom call him and ask if he received my letter and tell him how nervous I was to call him since I had not heard back. He called that night and just the sound of his voice was enough to make me melt. I finally heard the sound of his voice after having a name for almost 2 years.
We had a nice conversation and talked about his relinquishiment and his adoption. It was a very nice conversation and we talked for about an hour.
He continued to call me about every 10 days and we continued to get comfortable with each other. But the icing on the cake was when he called me this past Mother's Day to wish me a Happy Mother's Day. It was a dream come true and totally unexpected. I would have never guessed in a million years that he would call me or let alone recognize me on Mother's Day. On that day, I finally asked for a face to face meeting and he agreed it was time.
We made a date for June 10th. He lives in NW Montana and I live in No. Calif., about 1200 miles apart. He made all the arrangements for me and my husband, who by the way has been my greatest supporter in our reunion, to stay near him. My husband and I decided to drive because we had no idea what we were getting ourselves into and if need-be, we needed a "plan B" just in case the visit didn't work out for either of us. And we had no idea how long we'd stay or want to stay.
We arrived on June 10th as promised and we ended up staying 8 days and we spent the whole 8 days (day & night). It was an incredible reunion and we all got along famously. It was if he and I had never been separated. I'll spare you all the details about his aparents and adopted life, but if you'll remember he was adopted by a very prominent people and the family had been in the area for over 100 years and had the largest law firm in the islands. But his afamily is a made for tv movie. There's lots more but like I said and it truly could be a tv movie.
When we came back from Montana, we were all in love with each other........it couldn't have been a better reunion and what made it so special was that he wanted it as much as I did and he needs me as much as I need him. My husband and he hit it off like father and son and he looks to my husband like a father. My daugher in law and I hit it off immediately and have become great friends and my granddaugher, (5 yrs) is just tooooo precious. We are now referred to as Grandma and Grampa.
After that visit, I drove back up to Montana in August and he & I had 10 days together, 6 of those all alone. His wife and child went back East to visit her folks so he and I decided it would be a good time to get to really know each other. We had a great time together for 6 whole days and then D & H came home and I got to spend time with them. My husband flew up to join us and drive me back home.
We made plans to spend 9 days together again over Thanksgiving and this time my mother is driving up with us. This will be her first meeting with her grandson and great-granddaugher. What a thrill to have 4 generations together.
So Chris, again I owe it all to you and cannot thank you enough for making my dream come true. I tell everyone I can on the Sunflowers list about how you found him for me and it's money well spent.
Everything is going so great that the last time we were there he proposed that we might want to buy a vacation house near them so we could really spend some time together, we could travel up there more often and we wouldn't have to stay in the local inn when we visit (his house is only 800 sq ft and it's a tight squeeze with 5 people although I stayed with him in his house when I was there last...but it was just him and I then).
So we've put an investment house on the market and we're in the process of purchasing a house 5 minutes from H to use as a place to stay when we visit. He owns a 40 acre ranch which is a 3 hr drive NW of M and a 3 hr drive SE of S....it's in the middle of the B Mts and the most gorgeous country I've seen in a long time.
So that's how the reunion has gone so far and I truly believe that waiting all these years was worth it. He told me that when I first tried to contact him in 1993, he was 25 and not ready to meet me because his aparents were going thru a horrid divorce and he moved to V to go to college just to get away from them. But he carried my information around with him for 12 years before he finally felt he was in a good place within himself to contact me. He was 36 when he first contacted me.
Anyway, Chris, thanks again and sorry to have gone on so long but it always feels so good to tell our story and it couldn't have happened without you. And all your advice about writing a letter or calling was given a lot of thought. I'm truly happy though that he contacted me first instead of me contacting him......for now I know that he was ready for contact and I never have to deal with wondering if he would have ever contacted me. I'm secure in knowing that he wanted contact and wanted to build a relationship.
THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH CHRIS,
LIFE IS GOOD
(((hugs)))
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